How can one build a close network?
How can you build a close relationship with someone, and come across as more responsible, memorable, and outgoing?
How to meet new people and start a conversation?
What do friends normally talk about on a daily basis, in contrast to a coworker?
How do you make friendships that will last?
Thank you so much!
Building a close network takes time, it can't be rushed because it includes TRUST. Getting to trust has to include being vulnerable because it displays to the other party or individual that you're willing to be seen fully and completely and allows or opens the door for others to do the same.
Close relationships start the same way. The foundation of vulnerability and trust mixed with genuine curiosity. A lot of times people join groups with people of similar interests as a way to connect and build relationships. I feel that commonalities with people are a bridging agent but the core driver to building relationships with someone involves people who are vastly different than yourself. I find people with opposite world views, politically, religiously, and culturally, and I find that not only do I learn so much but my curiosity is limitless. There's really no end to trying to understand ways of life beyond your own. But be ready for difficult and candid conversations... which can be the most eye-opening and heart-opening experiences you can have.
Here is a list of basics:
1. Be genuine and authentic: Be yourself and show genuine interest in others. People appreciate authenticity and are more likely to connect with you when you are true to yourself.
2. Be a good listener: Listen actively when someone is speaking and show empathy. Ask questions to show that you are interested in what they are saying.
3. Show up and follow through: Make plans with people and stick to them. Being reliable and consistent will help build trust and deepen the relationship.
4. Join groups or clubs: Joining groups or clubs based on your interests is a great way to meet new people who share your passions.
5. Attend social events: Attend social events and be open to meeting new people. Don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone new.
6. Stay in touch: Keep in touch with friends by calling, texting, or meeting up regularly. Make an effort to maintain the relationship even when life gets busy.
Ryan recommends the following next steps:
When I meet new people, I usually ask an opening question depending on the setting we're in. A good question (other than the weather) is asking a person about themselves. People generally like to talk about themselves, whether that be passions or achievements.
When I was going through recruiting, I tried to be memorable by having one particular piece of conversation stick out to the other person and find something we bond over. To one person, I'm the "cupcake girl" to another I'm "the working mom who had that crazy haircut." You mean different things to different people based on interactions and experiences.
Meeting new people can be really challenging! Some opt to find people online but have a fear of being catfished. Some opt to go to in person networking events and try to work up the courage of approaching a stranger. My suggestion is to go online and search for a common interest group that you like. Read? Join a book club. Hike? Join a hiking club. Starting to get into pickle ball? Join a local athletics group. Start by bonding with people over mutual interests and then slowly learn about them throughout the relationship building process.
Friends don't have to talk on a daily basis. Now that I'm a working mom, my time and priorities have greatly shifted. I find my closest friends to be the people who are open to having good, genuine conversation on an as-needed basis. There is something heartwarming about freely giving and receiving communication and emotion without expectation. Good luck!
Being an introvert, I've found it challenging to start conversations, and felt like I needed to feel the environment more before being able to warm up to people - and I'm still learning despite being in the workforce for decades, and overcame this through making the first move.
Getting (or giving) the first handshake (or fist bump nowadays) is a good start - be genuinely interested in the person you're having a conversation with, being open with what your hear and sharing your thoughts as well. If you decided that it's someone you would like to have conversations again - just do it, have a coffee time and get to know each other better.
Even in commercial engagements, it is possible to build strong networks - there'd be some people that you could hit off immediately and rise from there, and some others that would need time to understand their perspectives and engage deeper to build the positive vibes with each other. People do appreciate it when you could support them with challenges they face at work - it could be your own professional experience, or a solution that your company can help with.
Having said the above, there would also be some connections that would just remain, a connection for the moment - make wise choices on who you want to be associated with and build a deeper relationship (or friendship). There may be values that you embrace, or boundaries that may challenge what you believe in - get to know more about others, be open about possibilities of outer limits, and most importantly, enjoy the company of the people you chose to build the relations with.
I've made really awesome friends through work as well, and would encourage you to put yourself forward to get to know people, and also allow people to get to know you!
All the best, Lisa! :)
Damien recommends the following next steps:
Building a close network of relationships can take time and effort, but there are a few things you can do to make it happen:
Be open and approachable: Smile, make eye contact, and be willing to initiate conversations with new people. This helps to show that you are friendly and easy to talk to.
Show genuine interest in others: Ask questions and actively listen to what the other person has to say. People tend to remember those who are genuinely interested in them.
Follow up: Keep in touch with people you meet and continue to build the relationship over time. Send an email, text or a message every now and then.
Be reliable and responsible: Follow through on commitments, keep your promises and be on time. This will help to establish trust and build a strong foundation for a relationship.
Participate in events and activities: Attend networking events, join clubs or groups, and volunteer for community events. This can be a great way to meet new people who share your interests.
Be outgoing and confident: Speak up, share your ideas and take initiative. These qualities can make you come across as more interesting and memorable.
When starting a conversation, you can find common ground by asking questions about the other person's interests, job, or other topics of interest. Small talk can be a good way to build rapport, you can ask about the weather, current events, and other topics of general interest.
In regards to friends and coworkers, friends tend to talk about personal topics such as family, relationships, hobbies, and interests, and coworkers tend to talk about work-related topics such as projects, deadlines, and office gossip. However, these conversations can overlap, as friends might ask about work, and coworkers can ask about personal life too.
To make friendships that last, it's important to maintain good communication, be reliable and supportive, and to be open and understanding with each other. Showing that you
Also don't leave people on read haha. People don't like that.
Yakubu recommends the following next steps:
The key to build relationships that last is to be personable and authentic. Make sure remain true to who you are as you build and foster those friendships. You can learn a lot from your friends and co-workers so always have open, respectful conversations so that you can hear and understand diverse perspectives. If available, look into social groups in your community, are there any sports leagues? Groups that host trivia nights? I would encourage you to volunteer with different community organizations so that you can no only be involved, but also meet new people with potentially similar interests.
In the working environment, we usually work in teams. We may be members of multiple teams given we may involve in multiple projects at the same time. So , the collaboration in different teams in important.
Below are my suggestions :
1. Attend courses teaching some techniques on the collaboration
4. Open Minded
5. Keep a smile on the face
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
Engaging in group chats, forums and blog discussions. Blogging is one of the best ways to build a professional network.
LinkedIn is a good professional network platform for all.