How do you deal with pressure or stressful situations?
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Another stress reliever would be to avoid waiting till the eleventh hour study. A lot of students cram, but it’s never a good idea. One, it turns on the inner panic button, so you can’t expect to retain all the needed information in your mind. Second, you can lose your sense of judgment, so you may end up not covering important lessons. Third, it doesn’t give you any rest. When you’re physically tired, your mind feels the exhaustion, and before you know it, you can’t think straight anymore. Instead of putting it off, hit it head on and get it out of the way (or at least get a part of it out of the way first. If you set aside no more than a half hour or an hour once a day to deal with course work and reading, you’ll feel better in the long run and be better prepared for the next class.
Next, learn to compartmentalize (Google it please)! This means locking a topic away in your brain when you are not working on it. Don't think about home at work and work at home. One problem at a time!
Self-confidence. The more you know about a subject, the less stressful it becomes. Also remind yourself, hey, I've done this before, and did okay! It could be public speaking, a job interview, or whatever.
Self-analysis. (the military likes to call it an "after action review." ) Once it's over, sit down and evaluate how you did. What went right? What do you wish you had done differently?
Seriously, the more life experience you acquire, the easier the next problem becomes. . . there's always a first time for everything, even for adults -planning a funeral, for example. You will figure out what works for you - lists, spreadsheets, or whatever.
AND, even while in the midst of dealing with a crisis, take time to exercise. You might not sleep or eat right, but get in some exercise! Seriously. (No, I'm not an exercise nut, but, it really really really helps!)
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There's a great organization in Western MI providing meals to children in need or facing hunger issues. I order bags online and just draw and color encouraging pictures or messages, knowing the bag will be in the hands of a child in need. http://kidsfoodbasket.org
The list goes on and on. And I'm not a medical expert, but I've heard that coloring or doing something artful can have positive effects on our bodies. I often find peace and calm in the act of doing something for someone else.
Have a great day.
Melisa recommends the following next steps:
I always step back when I feel anxious. I do not take everything to heart and I always plan on something I can look forward to on the weekends. I switch off my work phone at night, spend time with my loved ones and I work out a lot! Good nutrition actually helps, planning my meal makes me relaxed. I find ways to do something for myself, I plan on what activities I need to give my son, plan a date night with my husband and plan to clean the house and look forward to that feeling when I am done. These small things in life can add up and make you feel better when you sleep at night. Anxieties does not go away, but you can be better by trying to do something for yourself even just the little things.
Don't force yourself to finish a task if you're feeling too stressed out, as often times that will just lead to poor results.
To deal with pressure or stressful situations I would do the following:
Don't dwell on the negative. Don't get stuck dwelling on negative feelings — or focusing on the bad aspects of your situation for too long. Your power lies in how you react to — and cope with — the situation you're facing. Be aware of any negative thoughts.
Get support. Find someone to talk to about your situation I.e. family, friend and ask for help or advice. Be with people who believe in you, make you laugh, and help you feel good about yourself. Sometimes just a listening ear helps a lot. It helps you know that someone understands and cares about what you're going through.
Care for yourself. Take especially good care of yourself when stress in your life is high. Be sure to eat nutritious foods and minimize junk food. Get daily exercise and sleep. Do something every day that helps you relax I.e. yoga, meditate.
It is important to understand pressure and stress is normal and going thorough it will only make you stronger.
I hope this helps.
I hope this helps!
Best of luck!
- Be outside! Sitting outside (such as a park, or just outside your house) or even taking a walk for an hour can really help. Look at the sky and the clouds, sit by the grass, watch fishes swim in a pond or squirrels run around. It doesn't seem like much but it helps.
- Exercise! It doesn't have to be anything physically vigorous. Even a brisk walk or a hike can help release chemicals in your brain such as dopamine and endorphins that make you feel happy. Exercise can also help your brain get rid of chemicals that make you feel stressed and anxious.
- Socializing! Hanging out with friends, even over a brief period of time such as grabbing a meal together, can help relieve stress as you can talk about what's on your mind or help distract you from fixating on your problems.
- Finding a hobby you enjoy or meditating have also been known to help.
If the stress or anxiety feels acute, the first thing to do is calm down. Exercises for controlled breathing help keep your heart rate and adrenaline from spiking. Drinking a glass of water can help slow down whatever physical reaction your body elicits.
There are also ways to mitigate stress:
What helps me is staying organized. Knowing what I need to do helps take the guess work out of what to do next. Try building an agenda or a schedule and stick to it.
If problems seem too large to tackle, break them down! Build yourself a guide, piece by piece, on what needs to be done. Remember: you don't climb a mountain in one leap, you do it by putting one foot in front of the other.