Personally, I have always wanted to do healthcare, but it took until junior year of college to fully realize what I wanted to do. Although, I do not regret taking a gap year to pursue being a physician assistant, I definitely could have made steps earlier in college that would have helped me! For example, I regret not participating in clubs that were relevant to me that would have helped me understand the profession more and obtain volunteering hours. I was very much absorbed in succeeding academically and in research that I almost completely neglected the extracurricular activities. However, in my gap year, there have been other ways to become knowledgeable about a desired profession without joining a club and I have been able to slowly obtain volunteering hours. I don't necessarily regret going full-speed with academics because GPA is not something that that I could have fixed as easily as not obtaining the hours. I hope this helps a little bit!
I wouldn't necessarily say I regretted not doing anything in high school / college. That being said, there are definitely a few steps I could have taken to be more proactive about my professional development and goals. For example, one thing that is not explicitly taught in high school or college is emotional intelligence and self-awareness. Often times, I was so caught up with studying that I did not regularly check in with my thoughts and feelings. After graduating, I had so much more time to myself and had the opportunity to sit alone with my thoughts. This has helped me become aware of my feelings and being able to take steps to regulate my feelings in a more productive manner. Because we tend to be so busy with high school involvements or college clubs, mental energy is not often directed inward to explore your subconscious. Therefore, I would definitely recommend practicing checking in with yourself. The concept of metacognition - thinking about thinking was only something I really immersed myself with after I graduated from college. However, this tool is beneficial in all aspects of your life. It will help improve your mood, bring clarity to your goals, and strengthen your relationships with others.
This is a bit more of a spiritual answer to your question, but I hope it helps!
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This is a great question.
I wish I would of been more involved during my senior year in high school besides helping create Art Club which is still on going at my High School. I would of joined more clubs, been more involved with the Student body. When I got to college I wish I would of finished my second year and got my degree, but I dropped out 2 weeks prior to finishing.
Get involved in what clubs/activities you can in High School and stick with them! The more clubs & activities you are apart of will help you with any insecurities you may have being in a public setting. I do regret not being more involved because of my own insecurities but over time and working retail it helped me become more of myself when doing public speaking.
Good Luck !
Looking back, I can’t say I regret much from high school and college! However, there are lots of things I’m soooo happy I did!!
For high school, being super involved allowed me to make the most of my high school experience! I was involved in lots of clubs & extra curricular activities. I also attended most pep rallies & dances & little events the school held. That made me feel connected to my class & truly enjoy high school!!
For college, I tried to keep the same mentality & get involved. It was definitely harder, and looking back, I probably would have liked to be more involved with my university. However, studying abroad was a 10/10 choice! I loved it!!! I recommend if you have the chance, to get out of your comfort zone & study in a county you’ve never visited. Also, take advantage of all the resources you have during your college years! Lots of people willing to help you & you should take advantage of that.
Good luck to you!! Remember that it’s easier to regret the things you didn’t do, as opposed to the things you did do (those become lessons!)
What a fantastic question! For me, I wish for two things:
One, I wish I would have learned how to study in high-school, which meant I wish I would have academically challenged myself more through challenging college classes or self-development in programming. High school was so easy for me, where I never really studied anything. I just breezed through my homework and tests and never learned to really hunker down and study. When I went to college, the difficulty in the school subjects hit a critical point where I couldn't just count on my smarts anymore. This led to me flunking my classes and being academically dismissed. It took a lot of work to get back into college and graduate on time, and given that I had to work part time to support myself, I didn't have time for much else.
Two, if I had more time in college, I wish I would have done internships. This would have allowed me to discover earlier on that analog design is not something that I enjoyed, and would have helped me pivot to a computer science degree, which would have been more helpful. Having been on the hiring side for many years, I can't tell you how much advantage a candidate has with internship experience. Because they have worked in a corporate setting before, the candidates who have had internships just come across more mature than those without. It's also one of those things that stand out on a resume, even if the internship was with a smaller firm.
Lastly, I rephrased your question a bit because I don't actually regret these things. I wish I would have done some things differently, but really, I am very happy with where I am and the unique journey I took.
I wish you the best of luck, and remember that if you're happy with yourself, there is no wrong way to go about life.
If I would go back in time and give myself one piece of advices as secondary school. I would told myself don't feel shy and confused, please do not care about the people around you, no one cares what your friends saying , just express your feeling and thought, don't let her go. She muster her courage and express her feeling to me but I do not give any respond to her even I love her, and all because of my friends . I care with my friends's saying rather than the girl, I feels extremely regret until now and this feeling never stop. If times flies back and I have one more chance , I would say " Me too ".
However , life do not have second chance, so cherish very moment because time can not flies back and don't make yourself regret.
The experiences you will have and the individuals you will meet along the way, become the lasting memories and life long friends you will take with you for the rest of your life. Regardless of whether you are outgoing or introverted, there are groups, clubs, organizations and opportunities for you to make the most of your time in high school and throughout your post-secondary education.
One thing I wish I did in high school was try to join the Speech & Debate team. Through that experience, I could have had an earlier exposure to the public speaking, logical analysis and persuasive argument skills that are necessary for a successful business career. I’ve achieved that growth through less structured means since leaving high school, but speech & debate would have provided a lower stakes platform to learn. My high school had an elite team!
In college I did change majors (Don't think you are stuck). I went in planning to be a Chemical Engineer but ended up changing my major to Computer Science/Mathematics with a concentration in Biomedical Research. I knew I wanted to be challenged in college and wanted to graduate with a useful degree (a degree that I could get a job immediately). As I explored Chemical Engineering I realized that I didn't want to be single dimensional but wanted to have more options in a career when I graduated. This worked out long term as the major I landed on has kept my career relevant.
Although not a regret, I believe all things happen for a reason and for a purpose, I would recommend continuing your education. I stopped after my Bachelors degree and years later I have not moved to complete my Masters. Because I am in a technology area it hasn't limited me but life happens and I haven't completed my goal.
1.) Use this time to figure out what you think you want to do -- really, what YOU want to do with your life. If you think going to school every day for 12-18 years is bad, think about picking a career that you don't like and doing that for the REST OF YOUR LIFE!
2.) I wanted to be a teacher -- I REGRET not really thinking about the lifestyle I wanted to have and realizing sooner rather than later that I wasn't going to achieve that life on a teachers salary. I had to choose a new career path in my late 20's after I'd paid for college 2x due to this late realization. So, consider both your passion and the funding you need to have a happy existence (don't think rich, think comfortable), as well
3.) Travel -- I grew up very poor so travel wasn't something I had the opportunity to do too much of. I'd never taken a train, plane, subway, public bus (thanks to growing up in the country), and I REGRET turning down opportunities to travel to places because I needed to know how to do these things and wouldn't ask for help. Traveling and seeing your world from the perspective of someone in another city/state and especially country can be a game changer if you let it.
4.) Experiment -- Not with anything illegal, but wear that outlandish outfit, get a hip hairdo, hang with a group of people (again, not druggies or thugs) that you might not normally hang with (I was a jock-- in college I hung with the Theatre kids... eye opening experience), try Hummus, etc.. I REGRET not experimenting more!
5.) Be you! Being an adult comes with lots of requirements to conform to be accepted - not much different than high school, really, but not conforming can cost you jobs, promotions, etc.. I REGRET not being more in touch with who I really was during that time and just being OK with being that person for a while. I missed my first opportunity to get comfortable in my own skin that first time around.
Laugh, love, have fun. Good luck!
Thank you for asking this great question! There are so many insightful comments under this question, and I learned a lot from them.
If I had a second chance, one thing that I would change is to do more thorough research at the time of college enrollment. As I was making my decision, I overlooked several factors. For example, I did not spend much time reading the scholarship information, advanced placement policies, and core curriculum requirements.
Also, I was not fully aware of the implications associated with the Catholic faith that my university celebrates. As a result, I struggled to fit in during my freshman year, was unable to use half of my AP credits, and had a hard time in the school-required theology courses. Nevertheless, the four years of studying there were the most formative experience of my life, and I became a more open-minded and compassionate individual, who also probably has more knowledge in Catholic theology than my friends in my home country.
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For me, if there is something I regret not doing in college, that would be when I did not pursue becoming a doctor. I am a graduate of Bachelor of Science in Psychology and I've always wanted to be a doctor. After I graduated, I immediately applied for a job and just set aside my dream to become a medical practitioner. That would be forever my "what if" To be honest, until now I am still thinking what my life would have been if I pursued medicine.
Looking back at my highschool and college years, I chose the right friends who influenced me to be better every single day and accepted me for who I really am. I joined clubs and organizations that I was mostly interested in. I kept a good balance of keeping good grades and having clean fun. Enjoy life right now. Find the right people who can give you guidance. For me, as long as you love what you do, that will keep you motivated and happy :)
I also spent a year studying abroad - one of the greatest life decisions I have ever made, mainly due to the people I met.
My regret? Well... I probably had the time to join a completely random club/society, you can never meet enough amazing people whilst studying, and each one opens the door to a new adventure
I definitely do regret not doing many things both in high school/college, but I believe that everything happens for a reason.
I wish I would have gone to a public school, instead of a charter. I would have joined clubs/organizations, sports, summer programs, internships. In college, I do regret not studying abroad, doing internships, working on campus. Doing these things would have helped me better prepare for the job sector. But, other than that, I have a wonderful college experience. It is definitely good to get out of your comfort zone and get involved as much as you can.
Good luck :)
Enjoy the ride!
I think for me one of the biggest regrets was involvement. I wished I put more time and effort into joining extracurriculars and really enjoying the benefits that they could give me. This applies for both high school and college for me.
That being said, I also regret worrying so much at that age. I wish I would've taken advantage of being young and not taking things so seriously. Life continues to change and gets more complicated with age, try to enjoy the family and friends you have around you at this stage.
Also, while you have more time--read as many books as you can. One a week if possible.
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I would echo a lot of these responses and say involvement. Building relationships and a network of people who can you leverage in the future.
I have two.
1 - I regret not pushing forward and completing my bachelor's degree in four years. I should have just stayed the course with my first degree program. I would have had better opportunities and spent less money.
2 - I did not stay in contact with the friends that I made in college. That is easier now with the advent of social media and the dropping in price for phone service. There are people who I really wish that I still knew. I think that they could have helped me achieve more at an earlier age.
This is really something I regret, but it is something I definitely recommend. As a freshman at my college I decided to live on campus in the dorms. Although you here horror stories about dorms, I think every college student should try it once. I didn't have the best roommates, but I made the best out of the situation. It was so convenient living in the dorms and I was so much more involved on campus while living in dorms. I would go to sporting events almost daily, go to social events in the dorm and on campus, and hang out with a lot of my fellow classmates. Once, I moved off campus it was a bigger hassle to come to campus then before so most times I didn't. I preferred living off campus for the fact that I didn't have to follow university rules and was able to have pets, but it also came at the expense of being less involved on campus. I hope this information helps you out.
When I entered college, I was definitely faced with a lot of challenges including but also beyond academics. This challenged me in believing if I am 'good' enough in my abilities and being proud of my accomplishments as I am my harshest critic.
I wish I spent more time acknowledging my successes and knew that I can still grow while being proud of myself :)